(DISCLAIMER: This one is for GUYS only. But Girls too read it as it might help you to understand guys better.)
I am not talking about “friends with benefits”. In fact, I am talking about the other way around-having a female friend who will usurp all the happiness out of your life like your girlfriend, without the providing the “benefits” of a girlfriend. First of all, I don’t know when it all started that being friends with the opposite sex became cool. May be it was Mujhse Dosti Karoge or one of the other candy floss films that made friendship sound COOLER.
The CATCH- these girls become friends with you, become very good friends with you (in some cases your best friend) and then expect your undivided attention. You are expected to be at their beck and call 24x7. They will call you once, twice, thrice and even a zillionth time until you hang up on your boss and tell him that it’s your mother calling and pick up your lady friend’s phone. Is this Lady-like behavior?
I support women. I love women-the things they do, the way they handle so many things simultaneously. So if you think I am a pig, you are wrong! But this is to all the girls out there-Have you heard of something called “Just Relax”? It is about being quiet, giving your male friend a break and accepting that HE TOO HAS A LIFE. Enough with all the saccharine-coated friendship! It is time to get real and practical.
I am not telling that girls and guys shouldn’t be friends. Having female friends has its advantages-hey are more supportive of you, they are more honest towards you and they are not jealous of your success. But at the same time they come with LOADS of emotional baggage. Something that I have been telling myself these days-Guy buds are better-there’s less talk, more laughter (pervert jokes), no tears. Be friends with a girl only if she is… (do I even need to complete this?).
PS-Any resemblance to life is co-incidental. No strings attached!
This does not sound like you AT ALL Rohit!
ReplyDelete@vinay-Times change,right?you like it?
ReplyDeleteLekin aisa nhi h Rohit. All girls are not alike. They do give time and space to their so-called "MALE" friends. But at the same time, its the concern and the caring nature of a girl that comes into picture. I have seen many such cases when they give time and then the so-called "MALE" friends think that the girl is not interested in them. So before saying anything look into both sides of the coin... C ya..
ReplyDeletewah wah! finally u wrote this down :P any resemblance??
ReplyDeleteanonymous1-you sure are a girl, that I can infer from your comment.Please don't hate me for this. I have mentioned that girls have more heart than guys in d latter part...
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ReplyDeleteHey Rohit!
ReplyDeleteCoolio!
I agree to what you've penned down.. To a huge extent.
Females come with emotional luggage..It requires a great deal of skill to handle us..
But somehow you seem to be caught on the wrong footing of things..of not being able to handle your female friends..of not knowing how to relate to them at such a deeper level..or being frustrated at some foxy situation life has offered you!
To you, your own! :)
Hey ashxcelsziore,
ReplyDelete1st of all, I read your blog...Poetry-Nice!!!I want to add your link on my blog. I will do that soon.
Truth is-I have best friends,2 of whom are girls. They are smart and fiercely independent. This I respect the most about them. Life has been kind and generous until now (though there are a few complaints)!
Keep Reading...and commenting
Without Wax,
:)
ReplyDeleteBe friends with a girl only if she is ... pavi :p.
ReplyDeleteNo Rohit, I dont like it that much. Its a good read but i dont completely agree with the content. Btw sounds like you wrote it after seeing pyaar ka punchnaama.
ReplyDeletevinay-i have not seen d movie yet..i hope to write something someday that even u would like...
ReplyDeleteerr erm..okaay so emotional baggage REAALY:O
ReplyDeleteDont bother,sweet boy,the capacity of lifting the emotional baggage varies from man to man ( or boy to boy !)But with the age & experience the capacity goes on increasing.So have patience & ask your gf too keep cool.
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